No one likes making mistakes, especially me.
In fact, for years I did everything I could to avoid making a mistake. I stayed up late, meticulously reading web copy so I wouldn’t have a mistake on my new website.
I’d skip workouts and eat whatever food was easiest and fastest so I could work longer and harder, believing this would ensure I wouldn’t make a mistake.
I’d sacrifice time with family and friends telling myself it was all in the service of my business but what I was really doing was spending my time attempting to not make any mistakes.
I’d love to tell you that all of those late nights, hours and sacrifices worked and that I never made another mistake, but the truth is they didn’t.
I still made mistakes. Tons of them. Big ones.
And in return I not only had my mistakes to contend with, but I also jeopardized my health, and strained my relationships.
What I had to learn was that a) I was going to make mistakes, no matter how hard I tried not to, and more importantly, b) mistakes were the best way to learn.
Oh I know, I didn’t want to hear that either, but in the end, I’ve learned WAY more from my mistakes than I ever have from my successes.
The key is to actually learn from your mistakes. Most of us spend our time beating ourselves up when we make mistakes, missing the learning, and in doing so, compound the mistake.
I mean, if the mistake happened anyway, why not salvage something from the experience? Right?
In grad school, I had a mentor named Mary. Back then I wasn’t tapped into my power and felt pretty damn powerless most of the time. When things would go wrong I’d march into Mary’s office and vent. She’d listen, patiently, and then ask me, every time, VERBATIM:
“And what did you learn?”
OH! How I hated her sometimes for asking that stupid, awful, horrible question.
But she was so right. Turning me, consistently, toward the learning was what made me who I am today. Her guidance (and never-ending patience, I might add) taught me how to turn my weaknesses into strengths. My mistakes into learning. My tragedies into victories.
The path to power is paved with mistakes. If you’re unwilling to make them, good luck, because you’ll make them anyway. So why not see what you can learn from them?
Stop beating yourself up and instead own that shit. Your mistakes make you who you are.
How you handle your mistakes makes you who you are. So how do you want to handle your mistakes? Do you want to rant and rave and beat yourself up and crawl into a big gaping shame hole?
Or do you want to learn and grow and bust out of your ruts and TAP into your power?
You get to decide.
Sari's passion is to help you TAP into your power from the inside, out. "Power Tools" provides real talk that gives you tools and reminders for tapping into your power instead of giving in to your excuses.