"I should be doing more writing." "I should work out more." "I should(fill in the blank)." All these "SHOULDS" just fuel the unnecessary and unproductive presence of guilt that hangs over our heads. I took back my power over "the shoulds" this last weekend. Read about it in the Self-Care Saturday section.
Then, dig deeper into your WANTS with an article by Mark Manson that is sure to challenge your thinking around those wants.
Top off your weekend with expanding your awareness of those that are less fortunate in your community and across the nation. Be inspired by the good work of our featured Power Organization.
Get powered up!
Last weekend was my husband’s birthday. The year before was his 40th, and I surprised him with a 4-day trip to New York City. We met friends for drinks and 2 hours later a car pulled up and took us straight to the airport. He had NO idea. (I know. I’m awesome.)
This year, however, he had a cold. And all we wanted to do was have a few days to lie in bed and do NOTHING. (Seriously. We considered leaving the front door unlocked so the food delivery guys could bring our dinner straight to our bed. We decided against it in the end.)
My parents agreed to watch our daughter (cause they too, are awesome) and Kevin and I had our blissful do-nothing weekend.
I had a friend go through a personal crisis this past week.
There were lots of tears, late nights talking about what to do, and many moments where my friend felt utterly powerless.
Then one night, something shifted. After days of confusion and hopelessness, my friend suddenly had a moment of clarity. He made a decision that would shift everything. As he paced my living room, he kept saying to me, “How do I keep this? How do I keep this feeling?” He was so worried he would slip back into powerlessness now that he had finally accessed his power.
That’s when I told him, “You don’t need to try and ‘keep’ this. You’ve accessed your power, and you can do it again. It’s always there, waiting. You just need to TAP into it.”
This is what most people think: sometimes you feel powerful and other times you don’t, and that’s because power comes and goes.
Your source of power is constant. It’s always there, ready for you to TAP into it. It doesn’t wax or wane, go up or down, it’s always ready, always present, always available for you.
The Amplify Project was born from the idea that you are the amplifier. One cord travels to the microphone to send your message out to the world. Another cord travels to your power source. That source is your values, your desires, your wants, and your life purpose. In other words, your true self.
It’s only when you get disconnected from your true self that you feel powerless. When you forget what you want, what you value, and who you are, that’s when you feel the most powerless and wonder where your power has gone.
It hasn’t gone anywhere. You just need to TAP back into it.
As I talked with my friend for many days, I kept reminding him to TAP back into what he wanted and remember who he was. As he walked out of my house yesterday morning, he thanked me for reminding him of his power. A tall guy already, I swear he looked two inches taller.
Have you lost your way? Do you feel powerless? Start by reminding yourself of what you want and who you are. You can do that by taking my FREE COURSE "Three Things You Can Do Right Now to TAP Into Your Power
If you read about some of the most important scientific breakthroughs in history what you’ll find is that they often occur not in a lab or during focused thought and study, but when the scientist or innovator was taking a break.
Research backs up the importance of mental breaks. Researchers found that a particular set of scattered brain regions consistently became less active when someone concentrated on a mental challenge but began to fire in synchrony when someone was simply lying in an fMRI scanner, letting their thoughts wander. More research documented the same kind of coordinated communication between different brain regions in people who were resting. Many researchers were at first doubtful, but further studies by other scientists confirmed that the findings were not a fluke.
In other words, the brain is anything but idle when resting. Mental breaks allow the brain to make sense of what it has learned.
"The capacity or ability to direct or influence the behavior of others or the course of events.”
When most of us think of "power," we think of the above definition.
That’s not how I’m defining it though. And frankly, I don’t think it’s helpful for you to define it that way either.
Power, the kind I’m talking about, the kind that you already have, has nothing to do with influencing the behavior of others or course of events.
Do you not have it until you can do those things?
Here are three myths most people believe about power:
Myth #1: Power is external.
Meaning, power comes from having a management position, or high rank, or lots of money or oodles of influence.
Here’s the truth: Power is internal. It comes from within. You already have it, and always have. You just haven’t tapped into yet. Not fully.
No one likes making mistakes, especially me.
In fact, for years I did everything I could to avoid making a mistake. I stayed up late, meticulously reading web copy so I wouldn’t have a mistake on my new website.
I’d skip workouts and eat whatever food was easiest and fastest so I could work longer and harder, believing this would ensure I wouldn’t make a mistake.
I’d sacrifice time with family and friends telling myself it was all in the service of my business but what I was really doing was spending my time attempting to not make any mistakes.
I’d love to tell you that all of those late nights, hours and sacrifices worked and that I never made another mistake, but the truth is they didn’t.
I still made mistakes. Tons of them. Big ones.
And in return I not only had my mistakes to contend with, but I also jeopardized my health, and strained my relationships.
What I had to learn was that a) I was going to make mistakes, no matter how hard I tried not to, and more importantly, b) mistakes were the best way to learn.
Oh I know, I didn’t want to hear that either, but in the end, I’ve learned WAY more from my mistakes than I ever have from my successes.
The key is to actually learn from your mistakes. Most of us spend our time beating ourselves up when we make mistakes, missing the learning, and in doing so, compound the mistake.
I mean, if the mistake happened anyway, why not salvage something from the experience? Right?
You have power.
Without having to do anything, be anything or have anything.
You were born with power.
But most of us think power comes from outside: that we only have power when we’re in authority over someone else, or when we have a leadership position or a lot of influence.
This reminds me of the story I read in Elizabeth Gilbert’s Eat, Pray, Love.
Sari's passion is to help you TAP into your power from the inside, out. "Power Tools" provides real talk that gives you tools and reminders for tapping into your power instead of giving in to your excuses.