"I should be doing more writing." "I should work out more." "I should(fill in the blank)." All these "SHOULDS" just fuel the unnecessary and unproductive presence of guilt that hangs over our heads. I took back my power over "the shoulds" this last weekend. Read about it in the Self-Care Saturday section.
Then, dig deeper into your WANTS with an article by Mark Manson that is sure to challenge your thinking around those wants.
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Last weekend was my husband’s birthday. The year before was his 40th, and I surprised him with a 4-day trip to New York City. We met friends for drinks and 2 hours later a car pulled up and took us straight to the airport. He had NO idea. (I know. I’m awesome.)
This year, however, he had a cold. And all we wanted to do was have a few days to lie in bed and do NOTHING. (Seriously. We considered leaving the front door unlocked so the food delivery guys could bring our dinner straight to our bed. We decided against it in the end.)
My parents agreed to watch our daughter (cause they too, are awesome) and Kevin and I had our blissful do-nothing weekend.
As I lounged around in my pajamas (which, let’s face it, is really no different than any other day, since I ALWAYS wear pajamas) I kept feeling GUILTY. How DARE I take TWO WHOLE DAYS OFF IN A ROW? (My readers have let me know that this is in fact known as a “weekend.”)
I should do laundry. I should be spending this time with my daughter. I should at least get a teensy bit of work done…
Damn that guilt. It ruins everything.
But it doesn’t have to.
Listen up power peeps: WE GET TO CHOOSE OUR THOUGHTS. For a LONG time I just figured whatever thoughts running around in my head were just “how it was” and there was nothing I could do about it.
Guilt is a choice. You can choose to feel guilty or you can choose to feel something else. The point is, you get to choose.
And this is so spectacularly awesome because it can truly change your life.
When you begin to feel guilt or anger or any other emotion you don’t want to feel, it’s always tied to a thought. If you don’t want to feel that emotion, then choose a different thought.
In my case I chose to think, “I can’t wait to give Kevin 100% of my attention.” Which is what I did. We slept in, ate crappy food and watched movies. It was awesome.
Self-care isn’t caring when it comes with a huge side dish of guilt.
You decide what stays in your head. If guilt comes creeping in when you’re taking care of yourself, focus your thoughts elsewhere.
In the meantime, enjoy the heck out of taking care of yourself.
I’m all about WANT. If you’ve been following me for a while, you know I say that without WANT there is no WILL.
But instead of asking what you want, Mark Manson has a counter question for you, and you might be surprised what it is.
I’ve read this article many times, it’s been shared with me more times than I can count, and now I’m sharing it with you.
In addition to figuring out what you want, you should also consider Mark’s question. Give the article a read. It’s SOOO worth your time.
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